Sometimes getting out there and socializing can feel like a battlefield. And if you’re not equipped with the right game plan, you won’t win. And we all know that the most influential people out there have PURPOSE. If you listened to HCC2, then you know what my purpose is!
You should know a few rapport building techniques to so you dominate the playing field. So what can you start doing today to become more influential, and effective at communication?
Eye contact. Now wait, don’t go off and say to yourself, “I’ve heard this before, Jay!” KEEP READING. I think you’ll like this one.
Look Deep.. They'll feel it!
Scientific studies show that eye contact causes specific chemical reactions in the body that are identical to those produced when one falls in love. And Love is a powerful force!
In other words, we can create a powerful connection, chemical and biological, that is real and physical. Not just rapport created through association in the mind (which is quite strong in its own right). Sometimes, our clients need some physical proof to understand what we’re capable of.
I can’t just leave you with a theory, so get out there and try this exercise!
RAPPORT BUILDING EXERCISE (and the start of an advanced induction!): Try this exercise the next time you go out and meet someone. Whether you’re doing an induction (which you should learn now!) or just a biological convincer, start out by having your new friend look at you, and look right back into their eyes. If you are right eye dominant, look into their left eye. Look deeply into their pupil and have them do the same. Here’s a tip: Imagine that you can see into their eyes and see their inner most thoughts. Really look into the depth of their eye color, and look for any images. I know this sounds funny, but it’ll make you look like you’re doing something (a process). It’s more believable that you’re a hypnotist, mind-reader, or psychic if you have a process. Just like any other profession. Remember that!
Continue to look into their eyes as you say, “In a moment you may feel a little funny. Like you’re falling. And that’s okay, because I’ll catch you.” Continue to look. (At this moment, if you’ve created a strong rapport as a hypnotist, they may just fall into your arms! Be ready!)
This can get intimate, so choose your target wisely!
If they break eye contact say, “Feels funny right? Now hold on, because if we continue from here, I will hypnotize you, and I need to know that you are ready.” You’ll get all sorts of reactions here. They may say,
“Okay, Okay… I’m ready” continue on.
They may also say, “This feels strange, no thanks” And this is a good outcome as well. I simply smile and laugh a little. My powers are that good that people may be a little frightened. It’s okay. :) Simply say, “You did great! Thanks!”
IF THEY DON’T BREAK EYE CONTACT: You’ve got ‘em! Instruct your friend to take a nice deep breath, and to let it out nice and slow. Do this with them to create rapport through mirroring. And do this for 5 breaths (total of at least 20 seconds).
This will feel like the longest 20 seconds EVER. But go with it. Feel the chemicals run through your body as you both connect on a deep, subconscious level. Keep looking “into their soul.” They will be feeling the same chemicals. However, they may not associate the same feelings to it, and may feel a bit uncomfortable, but this is okay. You’re about to bring them into an alternate reality, and they should feel a bit uneasy; A bit alien to the process.
Say, “When you are ready close your eyes. And continue to breath as you listen to the sound of my voice…”
You’ve just conducted a SWEET induction without touching your client!
Continue with a Deepener, another Convincer, and maybe a beautiful Affirmation before you bring them up and out of hypnosis!
Assuming that you are out there working on your approach, social dynamics, and communication with the outside world, this is a “REAL WORLD” routine that you can start doing tonight. You can do this, easy. Just practice a few times, record your scripts and you’ll achieve success!
You’re a warrior! Go out and conquer that social, and professional playing field!
ATTENTION: Always practice safe and permitted hypnosis. Respect your clients health. Heed all of your state laws and never hypnotize anyone without their consent.